Aloha is also a word of parting. In our well-ordered structures, we plan our year and know when things are going to happen. It’s the nature of being a teacher. However, life does not always fit into our plans. Today, several teachers’ plans radically and permanently changed.
Courtesy: Rosa Say
Across the street from my office is our local high school. Today, after a break-up with his girlfriend, one of the football team members went home and took his life. Needless to say, it has been a difficult day for staff, counselors, students and parents.
Having led a school through a traumatic event, I learned that compassionately, patiently moving ahead with prepared plans often stabilizes a situation. Even though some students went home to grieve, most stayed and continued through their class schedules.
I realize this is an awkward posting, but Teaching with Aloha must consider these times, too. Hopefully, you will never have to face them. However, it is likely you will someday. Accidents and illness and the unexpected affect all ages. Here are some guidelines if such times come your way:
- Live every day fully! Celebrate each student for who she or he is, not just what is accomplished.
- Learn to flex your plan when necessary. I love watching palm trees in the wind. Anchored to the ground but resilient because they know how to flex and bend when the gales come.
- Pre-think how you would handle an unexpected crisis. Perhaps you should set aside some books that focus on situations that could happen.
- Maintain close communication with your parents and colleagues; because of your authentic character, you might be the one they come to for help.
You can think of more, I’m sure. Teaching with Aloha has come to mean something a little deeper today. It’s also teaching with a “good-by” in mind.
